Julia Bacolas: immoral machiavellian narcissist

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Michael Robertson met Julie Bacolas when he was 22 years old, in Anchorage, Alaska. They met while employed as managers in the culinary industry and had a brief relationship. Some time after they ended their relationship, Julie came to Michael Robertson's home and disclosed a pregnancy. He married Julie in her first trimester of pregnancy.  

The marriage was a farce as it was learned years later that Julia Bacolas was involved in a romantic relationship with a married man by the name of Dave Berry, which she continued until while married to Michael Robetson until their relocation to Phoenix, Arizona, in 1990.

Julie had absolutely no love for Michael Robertson and only married him due to the pregnancy of their oldest son, Michael Bacolas Jr. Dave Berry would not leave his own wife and children for a relationship with Julia Bacolas. That became a source of disdain and hate Julia had towards her husband, which became a source of narcissistic supply that destroyed the marriage, created maternal neglect and abuse for their common children, and a life of mental illness and dysfunction of their offspring that impacted their adult lives with severe mental illness.

Michael Robertson was very proud to be a father to Michael Jr. and his siblings. When the children were diagnosed with severe cognitive retardation and enrolled in the special needs program at the Washington Elementary School district in Phoenix, Arizona, he changed his college major to Developmental psychology and pursued graduate coursework in child development to remedy their cognitive, developmental, and language delays and disabilities.

Julie took no undergraduate or graduate coursework in child development or cared to have any formal training to assist her cognitively retarded and developmentally delayed children. She was indifferent to the psychological needs or her children, and that was reflected in her education.

The father had no interest in psychology, counseling, or working with mentally ill children in the behavioral health field. Michael Robertson moved to Arizona to pursue a prelaw undergraduate education and a Juris Doctor degree in law; he wanted to be an attorney. However, due to his children's cognitive and developmental deficits, he changes his course of academic study and career goals in order to serve his children's demanding needs for stimulation and intervention.

Julie Bacolas wanted to be a dentist, but her personality shortcomings and drug addiction prevented her from pursuing that field of study. She entered the field of psychology and counseling to rely on her husband to get her through graduate school, mostly plagiarizing his college work as her own, or outright relying on him to do her written assignments and research papers. Julie attended her classes and lectures, but the research and essays she submitted were predominantly authored by Michael Robertson.

Throughout the course of the marriage and four children, Julia Bacolas became addicted to crystal meth amphetamines, resorted to prostitution to pay for those drugs, neglected her children, exposed them to abuse, and finally abandoned them for nine years. 

In April, 1998, Julie Bacolas kidnapped her common children with Michael Robertson. The father received emergency temporary custody, and on subsequent hearings before the Superior Court,  he was named the “custodial parent” based on many factors already stated ad nauseum.

While in Julia Bacolas' care, it was determined that the youngest daughter had been sexually abused by Edward Stoffers. A case was opened with the Glendale Police Department and audio tapes of counseling sessions with family counselor was provided to both Child Protective Services and the Glendale Police Department. During these allegations, visitation was not severed by the Superior Court for Julie Bacolas, but the perpetrator was not allowed contact with the children during the investigation. Upon an private investigation presented to the court by Colonel John T. Tavernaro, the background on this perpetrator was established with documentary evidence to the Superior Court of past sex offences against minors in the state of California. 

At no time did Julia Bacolas exercise her right under joint custody of the common children to have her daughter independently evaluated outside the CPS investigation and the agency's recommendations, the counseling records and admissions on audio tape of the sexual abuse recounted  by the child victim to trauma counselor Rochelle Silverman, nor the reports or neglect reported by the other Bacolas children.

Julie Bacolas did not exercise her rights under joint custody for a psychologist of her choosing to interview her daughter making these claims, because Julie did not care or love her children, or the family. The mother was, and is, a malignant narcissist incapable of empathy for her children and family. Julie Bacolas was only concerned about crystal meth amphetamine addiction, and her relationship with Ed Stoffers offered her a lasting and continuous supply of her drug without the need to continually prostitute herself to multiple men to obtain it.

When the Glendale Police received the counseling records and audio tape disclosure by the daughter, graphically outlining the level of abuse she suffered by Julia Bacolas' boyfriend, Ed Stoffers, the couple had skipped town to avoid prosecution. Julie did not want her child independently evaluated for the assault, but opted instead for a life on the run with the man who perpetrated that crime.

Julia Bacolas hated Michael Robertson. She hated her husband because he was a better parent, Michael Robertson had empathy and deep love for his children (an emotion she cannot express or feel as narcissist have low or no empathy), and he was of moral high character in comparison to her extreme character defects associated with malignant narcissism.

Julie Bacolas' return in 2009 was not out of love for her children. Had she felt those maternal emotions she would have willing paid relocated to Phoenix when the children were young to co parent, pay her $75 per month, per child, in child support (which the father had her garnished by child support enforcement merely on principle), visit her children on holidays and not 'stand them up" on Christmas day on promises and anticipation she would come (and never did...children sad and looking out the window "is she here yet?"),  and basically just love her kids. Was that too much to ask? Love your own children? Apparently, for a malignant narcissist, devoid of empathy...it was.

Julie's return in 2009 was not out of love for her children. It was out of hate for her ex husband and designed to destroy the family he had built, fueled by her narcissistic hate. Julie Bacolas, the malignant narcissist she is, hated the success Michael Roberson experienced in life, Julia hated that her ex husband had remarried and began having more children (which she could not). Julia hated that that Michael had a nice home in Surprise, Arizona, while she lived in a trailer in Kingman, Arizona. Julie hated that her ex husband was successful and regarded in the community as a provider of behavioral health services for children and families, while her own credentials were withheld by Chapman University due to her character flaws, unbecoming a counselor in the profession. Julie hated that the father of her children was successful in business, while she had no financial success in life do to her lifestyle and spousal selection. 

What Julie Bacolas hated most about Michael Robertson is that he was a good parent and successful with his severely mentally ill children, in light of the trauma the family had experienced at the hands of Julie's neglect, abuse, and abandonment.

Julie Bacolas hated that Michael Robertson had an educational and vocational career path in place and the children, notwithstanding there mental illnesses, became a representation of her ex husband's successful parenting, which highlighted her failures as a mother. 

Prior to Julia Bacolas' return in 2009 and her grotesque menticide and destruction of the family, the Bacolas children were in college, or about to enter college, with academic and vocational goals in place. The father had purchased automobiles for his children (except the youngest), paid for their first semesters and year in college, and spoiled his children with vacations, clothes, and material goods they were unable to attain after the divorce in 1998.

Julie Bacolas return to the Bacolas family in 2009 was out of narcissistic hate and had a three fold goal: 

1. Perpetrate a mental brainwashing and menticide of their severely mentally ill common children in a narcissistic refabrication of her reputation,  painting the perpetrator mother of abuse as the victim.

2. Destroy the family unit and her children's relationship with their father, thereby eliminating the children's educational and vocational goals (all the children dropped out of college after the menticide by Julia Bacolas). By destroying the children's lives and future success, the malignant narcissist robbed the non narcissist parent the fame of being the  successful parent (a narcissist views successful parenting as fame, the non narcissist parent views successful parenting as a responsibility based on love of one's family).

3. Turn the children against the father, make them narcissist "flying monkeys" in order to destroy his new marriage, which is also a sign of success and prosperity to a malignant narcissist filled with hate, jealousy, and discord (as the ex husband's happiness and success challenges the narcissistic superiority and delusional sense of grandeur).

What kind of a woman would destroy her own children's lives and relationship with the custodial parent who loved, provided for, cared, and gave his life for....merely out of hate and jealousy? What kind of woman? Julie Bacolas, malignant evil narcissist of the worst kind.

While Michael Robertson was married to Julie Bacolas, the couple openly talked about Michael Jr.'s arrested psychosocial, psychosexual, and cognitive development. 

The father expressed continuous concerns to his wife that their oldest son had arrested development and was not resolving an Oedipus complex, based on the family dysfunction, the child's cognitive deficits, and the mother's open animosity towards the father which Michael Jr. was modeling.

Julie didn't care. Actually, she fostered it. Narcissist need followers, people on "their side". Julie could care less that she was psychologically damaging her son's development. She is a malignant narcissist devoid of empathy...she only cared about herself. She only loved herself and welcomed the opportunity to turn her son against his father by fostering an unresolved Oedipus complex, so the son would not identify with his male role model and develop a somewhat healthy personality, notwithstanding his cognitive and developmental disabilities in childhood.

Upon Julie Bacolas' return in 2009, knowing her son Michael Jr. had an unresolved Oedipus complex from childhood (with pedophilic ideations), Julia Bacolas, knowingly (and with malice and intent to harm) fostered the development of a Stockholm syndrome, first with her son, Michael Bacolas Jr., then her daughter, Jennifer Bacolas, who had repressed memories of the sexual abuse from her childhood. Horrible display of lack of empathy and regard for the mental health and well being of knowingly mentally ill children, for selfish reasons based on narcissistic hate of her ex husband. People really go to college and learn abnormal psychology to harm and damage one's very own children? Julia Bacolas did...and with an intent to harm.

Julia Bacolas' goals first two goals were complete: destroy the father's relationship with his children and destroy the children's academic, career, and self actualization potential. The third goal...destruction of Michael Robertson's second family was on the horizon, with the ongoing menticide and the enlistment of her son, Michael Bacolas Jr., as the chief "Flying Monkey" for the now dysfunctional and destroyed Bacolas family.

The menticide the malignant narcissist mother had perpetrated on her severely mentally ill children turned their already unstable minds against their own father, the only real caregiver they ever knew. Michael Jr. was the first narcissist flying monkey, then psychotic feature Jennifer Bacolas....then the schitzoaffective....it appeared the entire family fell into a Stanley Kubrick script of Jungian demonic possession. What transpired in 2018 was bizarre and and expression of the truly demonic nature of malignant narcissism.

Michael Robertson's two minor children were taken from their mother Twalla Robertson's care, while he was out of the home, in 2018. Twalla Robertson was aware that her husband was in the process of leaving the relationship and taking custody of their common children.

The minor children were removed from the home in the absence of the father based on Twalla Robertson's insobriety and apathetic parenting that was already documented from previous encounters she had with DCS prior to that dependency.

It is assumed the investigator was unaware that Michael Robertson had changed his name in 2017 (previously Michael Bacolas, Sr.), and that he had successfully completed two family preservation programs from DCS involvement based on parenting issues with Twalla Robertson. 

The investigator did not know Michael Robertson's credentials, his past history of a parent survivor of multiple traumas with his family, his seven vettings by the department over a 23 year period, nor his reputation with the church, neighbors, or the community as an outstanding and involved parent.

Michael Robertson immediately demanded the return of his children to his care, and was extremely boisterous regarding civil liability toward the department if his children were not returned forthwith.

Apparently, with the millions of dollars paid out annually by the State of Arizona to parents who were wronged by DCS, it's better for the state's interest do destroy a vetted father, abuse survivor, and respected member of the community in order to pay out yet another settlement for egregious wrongs committed by the Arizona Department of Child Safety.

Michael Robertson consulted with legal analysts, and was informed that a parent could not prevail on a civil suit against the State of Arizona for improper removal of children and department misconduct in the matters, unless the parent bringing the cause of action has physical custody of the minor children in question.

The department filed the second severance in order to deny parenting rights to Michael Robertson, in an effort to deny him physical custody of his children, preventing him from pursuing civil damages in a potential law suit against DCS employees Lisa Millett and Joelle Higby, the Arizona Department of Child Safety, and the State of Arizona.

Since the Plaintiff, Michael Robertson, was a retired counselor serving families and children in the community, founder of a non profit for abused women and children in 2004, a documented survivor of domestic abuse over 23 years that included sexual assault of two daughters within a ten year period, and fully vetted as a fit parent seven times with DCS (most recent 2017, prior to the 2018 dependency). Given such a history of the petitioner father in a civil suit....the damages awarded were assumed punitive!

The misconduct by the employees of the Arizona Department of Child Safety is highly documented and is a "prima facia" case of tortious interference with a parent child relationship and the domino effect of tortious causes of action that followed.

The Department of Child Safety had to protect their department and the state of Arizona from another civil suit and payout of damages.

The second severance was filed against the father, having no case of parental impropriety, DCS weaved a false narrative and bizarre character assassination of Michael Robertson in an attempt to prejudice the court to the point of favoring a family placement with his minor children with his oldest daughter, Amanda Bacolas.

The flying moneys, severely mentally ill older children from his first marriage were introjected by the department. Although the Department of Child Safety had full documentation of abuse, cognitive impairment, and levels of maternal neglect by their mother (severely mentally ill), the department used these impeachable witnesses for testimony only designed to put prejudice and a question of concern before the court.

Psychotic babblings were taken. laden with defamation and slander against the parent which included serial kidnappings of children, child dismemberment and mutilation, animal abuse which included putting dogs in bags and slamming them on walls, raping children, etc. The bizarre testimony of these "witnesses" were impeached successfully. Their rants were known to the department prior to the first severance in 2019, but DCS didn't not use these "witnesses" or pursue such statements as they were ridiculous and obviously the ravings of detached severely mentally ill adult children, still living in the trauma of abuse inflicted by Julie Bacolas, and her constant menticide in their adulthood. 

Furthermore, the rants of these mentally ill people did not coincide with the facts in DCS's own files on the family history. It was obvious to all parties involved these siblings were lying out of malice.

However, in a last ditch effort by the Arizona Department of Child Safety to prevail in an illegitimate second severance, these "witnesses" and their insane testimony was paraded before the court, again in an attempt to create a level of prejudice that the court would side with family placement to Michael Robertson's daughter, and better to "err on the side of caution" in light of the highly inflammatory, and impeachable, witness testimony.

https://juliebacolas.com/narcissist-smear-campaign

Amanda Bacolas and her cohorts became flying monkeys for their mother's menticide, for the State of Arizona's efforts to avoid paying out another civil settlement, and because Amanda Bacolas is the only family member childless, assumed barren.

https://amandabacolas.com/joelle-higby-dcs

The minor children were placed with Michael Robetson's oldest daughter. At the time of placement, the father was adamant that Michael Bacolas Jr., a known pedophile to his family and friends, not have any contact with his little children.

Lisa Millett, DCS case worker assigned to the case, ignored the father's warnings regarding contact with his minor children and a pedophile narcissist. Michael Robertson also voiced concerns that the other severely mentally ill siblings have no contact with his minor children, the others being a schizoaffective and a bipolar with psychotic features, all of which are on the spectrum for malignant narcissism.

https://juliebacolas.com/lisa-millett-dcs-arizona

 Michael Bacolas Jr., the pedophile who now has unfettered access to Michael Robertson's minor children, was the individual gaslighting the false narrative and smear campaign against a highly competent father.
The children are gone and Michael Robertson will not receive custody. They have been adopted. That is not the intent of this website.

The content of this website was published because Michael Robertson has extreme concern about the contact of his minor children with Michael Bacolas Jr. (pedophile), Christopher Bacolas (schizoaffective) and Jennifer Bacolas (bipolar with psychotic features). All these individuals are on the spectrum for narcissistic personality disorder, which is of great concern to their father for his children's safety.
To avoid reunification with a fit, vetted, and proper parent, in order to mitigate damages from a civil settlement for departmental misconduct, Joelle Higby and Lisa MIllett destroyed the good reputation of a reputable member of the community to cover up their own egregious behaviors. 

The placement was made in order to bar Michael Robertson from seeking a settlement for damages against the state of Arizona for tortious interference with parental rights, tortious interference with parental visitation, alienation of affections, and adoption fraud. 

Feel free to contact Michael Robertson on the contact page of this website for documentary evidence showing Lisa Millett DCS caseworker was warned of these risks, but went forward with placement of his minor children with these severely mentally ill family members. 

Michael Robertson lost all his assets, business, and employment in 2018 as a result of this dependency and he ran out of money to continue to pay legal fees to continue to fight for his rights to parent his minor children.

Consequently, the father self-severed his parental rights in August, 2020, unable to continue to pay for the legal defense that exceeded $43,000 prior to the start of the trial. It was assumed his legal defense in these matter could have exceeded $100,000

Out of money, destroyed as a human being, with a parkinsonism syndrome diagnosis....the abuse survivor could not endure or afford to continue any longer. 

Destroyed by a Machiavellian malignant narcissist, in a foul display of evil and narcissistic abuse, carried on for decades against a man who just wanted to have a normal family...children and a family who loved him as much as he loved them.

Michael Robertson decided it was time to go home.

It had been a long time since he had seen his Dad, let alone gone to his home. But the father of seven children was also a son...his son.

So, Michael Robertson went home to see his Dad. He didn't go there to get anything. Michael didn't go home to ask for any help or any favors. He was beaten down and a destroyed son and just wanted to go home. Black eyes, bloody nose, lumps on his head....he had been through the ringer. Michael just needed to go somewhere he knew that he would be safe, where he wouldn't be attacked anymore. Someplace safe, someplace calm, someplace he knew he wouldn't have to worry and just....relax. He needed shelter from the storm.

When Michael went home he went into his Dad's study. His Dad was there, but Michael couldn't look at him. He couldn't sit by him either. He just sat on his Dad's couch on the other end. His Dad didn't say anything, but allowed Michael Robertson to just sit, so Michael did just that.

Michael Robertson was very embarrassed to be back home with his Dad, because he had been gone for a very long time. He wasn't the best son in the world and he wasn't about to ask his Dad to forgive him anymore for stuff that he had done wrong in the past. Michael didn't go home to ask his Dad for anything. He just missed him and loved him. Being around so much hate and evil, Michael just wanted to go back and sit....on his Dad's couch. His Dad let him and didn't say a word to his son. So, Michael stayed.

Dad kept letting Michael come home and just sit at the edge of his couch with him there in his study. After a while Michael Robertson began sitting closer to his Dad, until one day he was sitting right next to him, on his couch, in his study. Michael still could not bring up any courage to look at his Dad, let alone say anything to him. You see, Michael's Dad is a very important man. A very busy man. He has a lot more children than the seven he has. Most of his kids are hounding his Dad for attention, asking him for favors, stuff, help with things...but not Michael. He's already put his father through that in the past and that's not why Mike went home. Michael went home as beat up child....beat down...everyone in his life had no empathy or love and was evil to him...the only family member who ever loved Michael was his Dad. Michael Robertson loves his Dad with all his heart, always did...missed him so much, and just wanted to go home, sit on his Dad's couch with him, and just love him.

One day when Michael was in his dad's study, sitting next to him, his Dad reacted.

He was curious what Michael's dreams were. Michael Robertson would bring things he liked to that couch...his dreams...there on the couch with him when he sat with his dad, Michael brought the things he liked and what made him happy. That particular day, his Dad was curious. So, not looking up at his father and not saying a word to him, Michael shared his likes and "ideals' with his Dad. His Father was interested in what made his son happy.

Then out of nowhere, Michael Robertson's Dad spoke to him.

His Father spoke to him, but not in a voice you and I could understand....but Michael understood.

And this is what his Father said...

"Michael, stand up."

"I love you, Mike. I want to tell you something, so listen up."

"All those things you did in the past that offended me. I forgive you for all that Michael. I already forgave you for all your trespasses against me long ago. So, it's over. I forgive you, alright. You and I are reconciled."

"Your pain, suffering....your sadness...it's gone now. I take it away from you right this instance. You have no more suffering, son. It's over."

"Your parkinsonism....the uncontrollable shaking in your hands and body. I'm going to go ahead and heal you of that. The back injury everyone knows you have suffered from for all these years....that's gone too. And the stroke you had that paralyzed the right side of your face...healed. I am going to leave you the crooked smile though...as a reminder, ok."

"All the years of your life that were stolen from you....the years of your life that your own foolishness allowed to be taken from you....I give those years back to you... your youth...I give that back to you right now as well."

"I'm giving you something else, too. That 30 year smoking habit you had that has been bothering you. I take that away right now. Gone....over now...no more. Also, your obesity...those days are also over. In a short span of time you are going to be  that 170 pound young man like you were before...how you were long before all this happened to you."

"And those dreams you like...those things that make you happy....you gonna have all of those things...but in an abundance."

"After today, you can come visit me whenever you want. I love you so much Michael. But....you don't have to come up and sit on my couch with me everyday anymore, because I'm gonna be with you from now on, ok, son."

"If anyone asks you where you got this new body from, you tell them, you got it from your Dad!"

"But I want you to do me one favor, Michael Roberson. When you leave today and go back into the world...I want you do do one thing for me....DO MY WILL!"